Comments on: How To Trust Other People And Should I? http://youremotionalgps.com/trust-people/ Finding the quickest route from where you are to where you want to be. Sat, 10 Apr 2010 07:50:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Pat Bloomfield http://youremotionalgps.com/trust-people/#comment-15 Pat Bloomfield Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:13:54 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?p=493#comment-15 Hi Rob, an interesting article but seems a bit damning to state you can't trust anyone. Maybe what it comes down to is that people cannot fundamentally change their character to suit another persons ideal person. As they say a leopard can't change its spots. I think for a loving relationship to work we need to accept fully the other person's differences. If we're honest it may be the things thought of as cheating, lying etc. that were the very things that attracted you to the person originally. Have you noticed how some women go from one relationship to another and yet always end up with a man of similar traits whether it be drinking, violent, adulterer etc. And of course the same is true the other way too. There are also fundamental differences between the way men and women like to communicate. When women moan about everything going wrong, they don't want our solutions they want a sympathetic ear. Whereas guys want the solution to their problems. These differences are described in "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" series of books. My wife had to remind me of this when my daughter comes home moaning and groaning about everything that's occurred in her day. Nowadays I just disappear and leave them to it - all that negativity gets me down but they positively thrive on it :-) Hi Rob, an interesting article but seems a bit damning to state you can’t trust anyone.

Maybe what it comes down to is that people cannot fundamentally change their character to suit another persons ideal person. As they say a leopard can’t change its spots.

I think for a loving relationship to work we need to accept fully the other person’s differences. If we’re honest it may be the things thought of as cheating, lying etc. that were the very things that attracted you to the person originally. Have you noticed how some women go from one relationship to another and yet always end up with a man of similar traits whether it be drinking, violent, adulterer etc. And of course the same is true the other way too.

There are also fundamental differences between the way men and women like to communicate. When women moan about everything going wrong, they don’t want our solutions they want a sympathetic ear. Whereas guys want the solution to their problems. These differences are described in “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” series of books.

My wife had to remind me of this when my daughter comes home moaning and groaning about everything that’s occurred in her day. Nowadays I just disappear and leave them to it – all that negativity gets me down but they positively thrive on it :-)

]]> By: jill http://youremotionalgps.com/trust-people/#comment-16 jill Sat, 03 Oct 2009 00:44:01 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/?p=493#comment-16 Hi All... So what happens when one is emotionally un happy within, realizes they are not healed after a very bad ending to a long term relationship involving children, but also realizes that she will probably never be healed unless she lets go...what then? In order to let go i must move on, i am fully aware that i have had ample time to heal, but i just cant get to that particular finish line, and, when opportunity comes knocking, i am afraid, not for myself, but for the other person. I feel like nothing will ever be the same again, so i dont even bother trying although, inside somewhere, i really really want to. I know the old saying about learning to live on your own bla bla bla, the core of everything is love and everyone needs it to survive...no matter what anyone says its so good to have that comfort and sense of belonging, have a mate, and someone you feel close to that you know is there for you. No matter how much i live on my own, i'm never going to be completely happy doing it. I know i can do it and be mostly fulfilled, but i know i'd be more comfortable with a side kick lol. Problem is i just cant seem to move forward even though i so much want to. Hi All…
So what happens when one is emotionally un happy within, realizes they are not healed after a very bad ending to a long term relationship involving children, but also realizes that she will probably never be healed unless she lets go…what then? In order to let go i must move on, i am fully aware that i have had ample time to heal, but i just cant get to that particular finish line, and, when opportunity comes knocking, i am afraid, not for myself, but for the other person. I feel like nothing will ever be the same again, so i dont even bother trying although, inside somewhere, i really really want to. I know the old saying about learning to live on your own bla bla bla, the core of everything is love and everyone needs it to survive…no matter what anyone says its so good to have that comfort and sense of belonging, have a mate, and someone you feel close to that you know is there for you. No matter how much i live on my own, i’m never going to be completely happy doing it. I know i can do it and be mostly fulfilled, but i know i’d be more comfortable with a side kick lol. Problem is i just cant seem to move forward even though i so much want to.

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