Reduce Stress And Avoid The Stress Tax

by Rob McPhillips

The Hero is born in adversity.  The Victim needs a Persecutor.  The Winner needs a Loser.  And the Crusader needs something to crusade against.  This is the way of life.

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I have a mission, a purpose for which I stand.  My reason for breathing and the purpose of this site.  It is to help anyone who, up to now through ignorance, has been paying too high a price in stress tax.

Reduce Your Stress Tax?

Stress tax is the price we pay for suffering emotionally from stress or the effects of stress.  For example, we want a warm, loving, close relationship, but because we feel stressed, we lash out at the ones closest to us and push them away.  

The gap between what we want and what we have is the price we are paying in Stress Tax.  

Our experience in life is much like a business’s profitability.  A business’s profit is sales minus costs.  The cost of living is experienced emotionally as stress, frustration and anger.  When we reduce stress, we reduce our cost of living and so profit from a more enjoyable, more fulfilling and more meaningful life.

Just as most businesses pay more in costs than they need to, through ignorance or ineptitiude or because they just having got around to it yet, so too do we as individual’s pay more in stress tax than we need to.  

Businesses have Consultant’s have who make a comfortable living from a share of the reduced costs brought about by showing them ways of obtainiong the same products and service for less money.  And now you have found this site to help you reduce the stress tax that you pay in your life.   

Stress Steals Your Dreams From You

When we plan to, or actually have children, we are excited about the loving bond that we’ll have with them.  We dream about playing in the park on sunny days.  We envisage ourself preparing them for life’s pitfalls and helping them to avoid the pain we went through.  We smile as they wrap their arms around us and tell us how much they love us.

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However when these moments actually arrive, we are so busy worrying about day to day stuff that we are not really there mentally.  Then the sun isn’t shining and we’re knee deep in mud.  It turns out they aren’t interested in having us save them from the pitfalls in life and instead of loving us they are screaming at us because they want an ice cream.  And we wonder what the hell we were ever thinking.

But this is the price we pay in stress.  Not because being stressed is going to make it rain.  But when we are wholly present and fully resourced we can deal with anything.  We can turn a screaming, whinging mini devil into a joyful and loving delight.  We just have to be commited to the moment and not be physically in one place and mentally in another.

We dream of finding Miss/Mr Right.  We imagine romantic evenings, deep conversations till sunrise and an idyllic life together.

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Then we end up arguing over the toothpaste lid being left off, the toilet seat being left up, whose fault it was that the dinner burned and a hundred other irrelevant details.  And so the romantic evening ends up being spent bickering, the deep conversations make way to the patching up the relationship after the emotionally draining rows and idyllic life ends up being sacrificed for getting by.

These again are the real costs of stress.  

As children we dream of a life of significance.  We imagine ourselves performing as a great in a career that is satisfying, meaningful and rewarding.  For many though, the work ends up being boring, routine and meaningless.  We feel we have to sacrifice our integrity for the sake of our Organisation’s goals.

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All of this is the tax we pay for living stressfully.

In every moment, the gap between what we dream of living and what we actually are living is the opportunity cost of stress.  I call this price a stress tax because no one would ever pay it from choice.

The stress tax robs you of your dreams.  It steals your freedom by imprisoning you in the walls of your own thoughts and fears.  

  • The business idea you were afraid to test.
  • The girl/boy you really wanted to get to know, but never dared to make the move on.
  • The career you really wanted.
  • The activities you really wanted to do.
  • The places you wanted to visit.

All gone.  Casualties of the dreaded stress tax.

Reduce Stress And Live Your Dreams

Don’t pay the stress tax.  It’s too costly and unneccessary.  Develop the skills to live with minimal stress, in a high bandwidth state, in co-operation with others and live out your dreams.

Lying on your deathbed, the only regrets you will have are the wasted costs you paid in stress.  The lost chances, the missed moments, the risks not taken, the path you were too afraid to venture down.

 

 

Advanced Stress Management Guide Contents

What Is Stress?

What Are The Costs of Stress?

What Are The Effects of Stress?

What Are The Causes of Stress?

How Do People Generally Cope With Stress?

The Mindset Shift: It’s Ok To Be Stressed, But Get Over It Quickly

The Secret To Emotional Stress Management

Reduce Stress And Avoid The Stress Tax

How To Deal With Stress

The Way To Relieve Stress

The Law Of Fairness

Pyrrhic Victory And The Value Of Losing

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